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According to an article from Harvard Business Review, confirmation bias is the human tendency to search for, favor, and use information that confirms one’s pre-existing views on a certain topic. It goes by other names, as well: cherry-picking, my-side bias, or just insisting on doing whatever it takes to win an argument.

In my work, I have found that most women are quick to point out their flaws and failings with harsh judgment. We weaponize confirmation bias against ourselves by only searching for evidence of what we lack or have failed out. We need to learn to be women who see ourselves clearly and fairly, women who accept areas needing work without judgment and celebrate our beauty and goodness with humble confidence.

A villain is fighting us, and self-judgment is the weapon used. The noises of the world are constantly telling us we don’t measure up. Then we hold a 10X magnifier to our flaws and can barely spot our magic even if we used binoculars. It is unfair to continue to paint ourselves with such a skewed perception.

Many of the clients I work with have a challenge we discover is rooted in an identity problem. They have spent so long writing false narratives they have lost the ability to see the truth of who they are now. I spent years living under the false narrative trauma created. It was a real challenge to find anything I found good about myself. If I can learn to rewrite my narrative after decades of this, you can do the same in your life.

I want to help you develop the ability to see clearly and without judgment so you can make decisions with clarity and ease. In today’s episode, I will offer a simple plan to help you learn to break this pattern so you can learn to tell yourself the truth. Here are the three steps we will use to start telling ourselves the truth.

1. Tell the truth in equal measure
2. Look for evidence, not opinions
3. Keep a list of proof of these truths

Follow this plan, and you will learn how to allow yourself to be aware and impartial. You will also find evidence that proves your inherent value which will change how you approach your life. In addition, you will:

• Learn to be less judgmental toward yourself
• Open your eyes to see new narratives
• Become confident in your strengths
• Create a bank of evidence for future challenges

Confirmation bias is often used to drive our decided narrative forward. It trains us to tell ourselves lies. When we learn to train our brain to tell the truth – the good, bad, and ugly truth – we can begin to live with clarity and break free from the false narratives that have had us playing small.

There are more details on the podcast so head over to your favorite streaming platform and give it a listen. Be sure to grab your free I Am journal download below and start seeing the amazing strengths you have inside!

Until next time, remember, I am in it WITH you, always,
Coach Tammy