Over the years, I have worked with far too many women who admitted to feeling asleep in their own stories. They are so focused on handling their countless responsibilities while their dreams sit on the shelf. Many even put self-care on the back burner while they juggle all they have going on. I was one of these women and lived the first 40 years of my life trying to be “good enough” to earn the love of those in my life. At best, I was a facade running from one thing to the next to make sure everyone else was okay. Having clawed and scraped my way out of that pit, I can offer some tips to help make your journey back to yourself and your dreams be a much straighter path. As usual, this will require some sweat equity and work, but it will be a million times worth it.
In an earlier post, we learned how making decisions based on our active core values ensures the choices we make daily move us toward the women we are becoming. So I have to ask: Are you making decisions based on who you have been, are now, or who you are becoming and who you were created to be? It matters because if we want to be world-changing women, we have to be looking ahead – not behind or mired in the muck of today. Science tells us only dead fish float, and we are wonder women, not dead fish, so we must stop floating through our lives. This takes awareness.
In an article on the site Meditation Weekly, they define awareness as follows:
“Awareness is a capacity of the human mind. As we ordinarily understand it, it’s the ability to directly know and to perceive, sense, feel, or be cognizant of experience. We might think of awareness simply as the state of being conscious of something.”
I dumb that down a bit to us being awake in our lives.
Awareness creates space for us to see things. Life on auto-pilot makes it easy to coast through our days, handling whatever task or emergency in front of us. We give focus to the urgent while the important gets pushed aside. We simply don’t make time to stop and look at each choice and activity or examine every thought or feeling. In addition, most people are terrible judges of what they are capable of. We only see as far as the end of our nose and don’t step back to check out the bigger picture.
Okay, I am going to date myself here but do you remember the cult classic movie, Clueless? There is a scene in the movie where Cher refers to a Monet painting. Up close it was a hot mess but from a distance it was beautiful. If you pressed your nose to a famous painting, you would have no idea what the image was meant to be. You would only see a series of strokes on a canvas. But if you take a few steps back and allow your eyes to refocus you begin to see the beauty it holds, the nuances, the lights, the shadows. Awareness requires us to learn how to step back and take a look at our own life.